Choice

We don't come to this world by our own choice. After that its the parents and relatives who choose for us. The diaper,the food,the milk, the cloths everything. We just enjoy whatever is being provided. We don't have a choice at that time. As we grow a bit we start using the choices available and sometimes the unavailable ones also. Still parents choose most of the things and we hardly have any choice, but to choose from the things available. When life keeps moving ahead our choices increase,ie we get more and more options, but still are constrained. We don't choose the school, but we get a chance to choose the pencil,eraser or notebook, the tiffin box, the bag etc etc.When we are kids we choose our friends. No one imposes them on us. Its mututal. With whom we play , share the lunch box, copy homework, read comix etc etc. Basically its not like relatives whom we can't choose. If we don't like Smita aunty then we don't have a choice.She is anyway going to come home and talk about you to mom and how his son Rahul came first in class. I give a damm about it ;-). We don't choose our school uniform, but sometimes we choose our colths, colors and styles. But mom never allows you to buy a torn jeans and roam around. You do that when you are in college. When you finish school you do have a choice of your career. But sometimes parents choose what they think is good for you. Sometimes you choose. You see here also though you have lots of choices you are constrained by many factors. By this time you start evaluating choices. Earlier it was like you didn't care about the price,quality or any parameter whatsoever, as a kid you wanted it and that's it. But now you think. So these restraints are actually the guiding force behind each of your smart choices. They make you think and let you choose the appropriate one and not exactly the correct one. You might not enjoy the correct one. Sometimes it happens. You may be good in biology and you might like it,but that doesn't mean you will like being a doctor. You might like to go to a forest and study a certain species of insect whose existence would not affect the world in anyway, but later on you might put a paper on how important is that species of insect to the eco system.Everyone loves macho bikes and to have one.But not everyone owns a Harley Davidson. You do have choices while buying a bike, but you don't buy a Harley Davidson. A 180 cc DTS-i Pulsar with five spoke alloy wheels, front disc brake is what makes your adrenaline rush. The specs are enough to make the 100 cc bikes look like toys. But you see even the 100 cc bikes sell a lot, ppl buy it because that's what fits their choice. The Splendours, Passions make the TVS XL super and other 60 cc bikes look like toys. So its the constraints which make you chose the appropriate thing for you. The Harley Davidson still might be the correct one for you. Don't dream about it, you are never gonna own one. So you see there are so many choices and so many options. You are the one to choose. But you don't just go there pickup one and come back home. You do a cost benefit evaluation, the quality,the color, the product life, the price, compare prices of similar models in different brands and shops etc etc and manymore things. Ahh one thing we are forgetting, your wife ie your life partner. Just a second, why is it called lifepartner,you spend half of your life without your wife and after you get married you say her life partner, in a society where marriages can break anytime. Whatever it is, its called lifepartner and I am no one to question it. I do have a personal choice not to call it lifepartner ;-) Now this can be really frustrating sometimes. Your parents choose some gal from a good family and you have to accept the proposal. It might be the second biggest blunder in your life, the first one being agreeing for an arranged marriage when you didn't want it. It might turn your life not upside down, but tilted, in a position where you can neither live nor die. Oh why scare you guys. Marriage is not that bad. I don't have any personal experience but sometimes when you see happy couples you kind of believe in the institution of marriage. Wait a sec, why is it called an institution????? Oh forget it. So you see you had enough choices to choose your girlfriend in school, in college , in office, in the park you jog, the swimming pool, the tennis court, the bar etc etc. But you choosed someone so unique that you feel she is the onlyone who is appropriate for you. And still it happens that sometimes even if you have found that perfect one, you get married to an unknown person, just because you didn't have any choice. Sometimes it happens that someone else's choice turns out to be appropriate for you. Most of the happy couples who have gone the arranged marriage way and are happy will vouch for this. Sometimes you choose wrong stuff , but that makes your assumptions clear next time. So its not that bad.Now you see how we choose and how our choices are so individual.Why the hell then do you think companies flood the market with so many varieties of undies in different colors when no one is going to see it except for a few souls including you.I prefer I mean choose white ones ;-) now don't ask me why, I choose not to say.